"Love and work are the only two real things in our lives. They belong together, otherwise it is off. Work is in itself a form of love.” ― Marilyn Monroe

My husband told me about the wise words of his younger brother.  I believe the information originated from a friend who studied psychology. He said that love is expressed in five basic ways.  At first I was skeptical of this, but once my husband explained it to me it actually made a lot of sense.  It is important to realize that some people respond better to one or two of these items and also may not even recognize others. Figuring out how to express love to your significant other, or even just those you care about, in a way they understand will ensure they get the message.

Physical Touch
This of course includes, but is not only about, sex, so I'll get that one out of the way.   Physical expressions can include hugs, kisses, a light touch, or maybe even just a hand on the small of your back. Being physically present is important, but also not using touch in a harmful way, like neglecting someone, can be key.

Acts of service
The little things we do for others, like chores around the house, that tell them that you love them and care.  By removing tasks from their to do list they see your love through your actions. Sometimes we can do these things in secret, so that the recipient only knows that someone cared enough to (eg. shovel their walk), which can let them know they are not alone. Falling through on commitments can be very detrimental to a relationship, or not pulling your weight around the house.

Gift giving
This is stereotypical with couples who are courting or dating.  They may send each other flowers or chocolates, but the thoughtful gifts are much more valuable. Taking the time to give a gift that shows you know the person, and not necessarily that you have a lot of money, speaks volumes.  Taking someone out for dinner, making them a scarf, or even just sending them a "thinking of you" note, are all expressions of love. Doing little things daily or gifts with out occasion can sometimes mean even more.

Words
Love notes obviously also fall under this category. Sometimes we forget to tell people in words how we actually feel.  It is important to articulate our emotions as well as express them through actions.  Compliments for no reason, telling someone why you love them and of course the very words "I Love You" are very powerful.  Likewise, an insult can be devastating.

Time
You could do all the chores in the world for someone, but if they recognize time together as an expression of love, you may be having an alternative effect. Putting everything else on hold to spend time and pay attention to that person tells them that they are the most important thing.  Take the time to listen without distraction.  Make sure that, when you commit to time together, you keep that date and don't postpone for something else. Most of all, be present and make sure that you spend quality time with your loved ones.  They will hear "I love you" in the silence of your undivided attention. 

Today I would like to challenge everyone who reads this post to make a conscious effort for the next week, or even month, to express at least one of these forms of love every day.  If we all get in the habit of it I think those whom we love will not only feel our love more, but perhaps subconsciously pass on these acts of love to others.  And couldn't we all use more love?

FBM